Wednesday, April 23, 2008

Declining

On Monday, I posted about N pushing back about eating. It was interesting to me that when I finally made my way into the kitchen that afternoon, he actually had made himself a "super pretzel" without further prodding.

N is still declining some. He got up 45 minutes early this morning to do some homework. He was completely ready for school 30 minutes before we were supposed to leave. He spent that entire 30 minutes changing his shirt and never got to his reading. He was actually supposed to go into school late this morning to accommodate a special activity this afternoon. He was so concerned about whether the other kids would be participating or not. He decided to go in during his regular time and not participate. As he realized that most of the kids would be there this afternoon, he changed his mind again. He wanted to come home and wait for the later "start" time, but I encouraged him to stay. I knew that if he came back home, he would just spend his time changing shirts. Plus, he had some homework that he could complete at the library.

I really worry about how much weight he places on what the other kids think or what the other kids are doing. He is entering into a time in his life where he'll have to make a lot of hard choices. Will he be able to make good choices when the kids around him are making bad choices? Right now I worry that he is way too influenced by other kids.

N has also started doing his OCD dance again. He is trying to hide it.

2 comments:

Erica said...

This is the thing about eating disordered thinking that really gets me confused -- how much is it the ED talking, and how much is just normal "tweener" angst, peer pressure to say certain things, etc. I am constantly having an inner dialog with myself as to whether I should react to my d or not in certain situations. It is really frustrating.

Wendy said...

I agree. So much is changing with him anyway.