Tuesday, June 10, 2008


I weighed N on Sunday. He is up to 96.5 lbs.

I'm still struggling with getting into a summer routine. I'm also struggling with N's meals. He seems to be riding the crest of a wave right now and is doing well.


Imperfectly Creative said...

Hi Wendy,
I found your blog accidentally while searching for high calorie muffins. I am so sorry that you are having this issue with your son, I know too much about anorexia. I have dealt with this for the past four years with first my daughter and then my son. My daughter is now 18, at 14 she weighed 98 pounds, was hospitalized for 5 weeks and had intensive therapy for a year plus. She is now off meds and six months between appointments. She didn't care about body image, she was trying to save the world by becoming vegan and just eating less and less. My son is 20, has always had trouble gaining weight. The school year before this last one he went away to college. The stress of a roommate etc. was too much for him and he couldn't eat. We took him out of school and he went to the eating disorder clinic for a year (as outpatient) and then went back to college the next fall, with a medical reason for needing his own room, and has finished the year. He just came back from Peru and we found out he lost 14 pounds in 3 weeks, he is vegetarian (no veganism allowed!) and had to eat a lot of salad. This is ok, he doesn't mind having to eat to gain the weight, he is still on some meds and just has a better attitude about food than sister. But we did find out that his bone scan has not improved over the past year and this is very upsetting. So I am going to stuff that boy with as many calories as possible. The clinic believes in gaining through healthy foods, which is good, but they are against things like ice cream. This time we are gaining my way (I know how to put on weight) and I am feeding him like a teenage boy. So anyway, I never talk with this with anyone else who is going through the same stuff, except for my husband. Both my kids have social issues, can talk about the environmnet and animals (they volunteer at the zoo) but cannot have a shoot-the-breeze kind of conversation. I hope your battle gets better with the summer. And don't worry, you don't have to start a big answer me back kind of deal, I just felt like saying hey to a fellow mom of a skinny boy. I have a blog but I don't talk about this because my kids read it. It is www.imperfectlycreative.blogspot.com.

Wendy said...

Thanks for saying hello. Besides my husband really, my biggest support comes from online parents who know what we're going through. I wish you the best!

Imperfectly Creative said...

Hi Wendy,
First I forgot to mention my name which is Tina. Due to my blog I am getting used to not using names. And also, my blog does not have a comment area at present, I took them out because some guy from Romania contacted me. I have to figure out how to do them like you do. You are doing an incredible job with your boy. What we are all going through is extremely difficult and self blame is so easy, but the blame is all genetic. The eating disorder clinic we went to and are still going to, two appts. tomorrow, is called the Kartini Clinic in Portland Oregon. People come from all over for this clinic, many families use the Ronald McDonald House. Dr. O'Toole is fantastic, tough, and a for us she is a life saver. Insurance coverage for eating disorders is a nightmare, as I am sure you are aware. Good luck and God Bless.

Erica said...

Imperfectly Creative,
Can I ask why the clinic doesn't want your son to eat ice cream? One thing I've learned from my daughter's eating disorder is that there really are no bad foods. Ice cream is a wonderfully calorie dense food with the added benefit of calcium.

My daughter's ed started after she heard about the movie Supersize Me and decided to eat only Healthy Food...eventually everything became unhealthy. It's a slippery slope and now we are "retraining" our daughter to look at all foods as energy sources. Some better than others, yes, but our bodies need energy to grow.

You may be interested in an online forum that both Wendy and I are on called http://aroundthedinnertable.org it is a great source of support for many parents of ed kids.

Take care!